JF Ptak Science Books LLC Post 914
[Continuing the posts "What Makes Human Robot Girls, 1941" and The Missing Pieces of Women, Pope Joan and the Proper Girl]
Do Boys Like You? is
the name-of-the-game for girls, evidently (“set out to make yourself worthy of a boy’s
affection. Just one boy—any boy…”),
brought to you as a part of a long, continuing series by Elizabeth Woodward in
the Ladies’ Home Journal in the early
1940’s.
This installment is about getting a boy for a date, and how to make
oneself getable and datable and boy-friendly, all while maintaining the
thinnest veneer of self-acknowledgment ("be adaptable as a chameleon") as possible while staying true to "yourself". It is a cocktail of overall old-lady sense
and deep ruffled bows writ by the hand of gender entrapment and not-so-subtle
subjugation. Let’s get to it with some of the more archaeologically-interesting
statements of this social-norms-establishing pamphlet:
Paragraph: (Intro):
“Do boys like you, or don’t they? Its as easy as that! Either you have dates and go places with lots
of boys, or they don’t pay any attention to you at all.”
Paragraph: “A Female World”
“…the first thing is to find some men.” (Which is odd
because “men” is used only one other time beyond this reference—its all boys
and nothing but boys.)
“Short of throwing yourself on their (boys’) mercy, see if
you can’t wrangle an introduction out of the girls who do know boys…”
“Your parents could invite their friends over for dinner and
ask them to bring along their son. And you do a good job on him!” (I’m not sure
what that “job” is.)
“They (boys) can’t find you if you’re packed away in a mob
of females.”
Paragraph: “A Rank Outsider” (on being the new girl in a
community):
“The girls have things under control and they don’t want any
interference from you.”
“You might know more than they do, and you just might talk
down your pug nose at them.”
“…you’d better get accustomed to traveling alone…”
“Give them every chance to find out that you aren’t high
hat, that you like the same things they do, that you aren’t out to sniggle
their men away…”
“When they (the girls) accept you, the boys will too…”
Paragraph: “an Old Story”
“(Boys) are so used to looking at you that they think of you
as furniture.You’ve got to be new!”
“If you’re fat and pudgy, make yourself lean, sleek and
smart.”
Paragraph “Take it Easy”
“…its going to take practice to make boys like you. Take it
easy. Set out to make yourself worthy of a boy’s affection. Just one boy—any boy…”
Paragraph “A Few Gentle Hints” (Seems that we’ve gone way beyond this by now.)
“Don’t run around with girls who are dud.”
“Don’t go in pairs with a girl who is overwhelmingly popular…Better
pick a girl who will give you an even break.”
“Don’t languish for some local ‘hero’ who is sought after by
all the girls in town. He may be
good-but he’s far out of reach…”
“Don’t pick on a lad who has never had a date with a girl.”
“Don’t be careless or sloppy when you’re talking with boys…”
“Don’t expect (or even hope) that every boy you meet will
ask you for a date.”
And (not quite) lastly, but should’ve been:
“Don’t go around thinking about boys constantly.”
But lastly thus:
“Act as though you are having fun. Be alive, gay and enthusiastic. Be interested in what's going on. Be sweet, tactful, and adaptable as a chameleon. Have definite likes and dislikes, but don’t be so rigid
that you are stubborn, opinionated and difficult to get long with. Be carefree,
casual, easy, willing to play and fun to play with. And don’t be shy about
liking the boys.
THEN THE BOYS WILL LIKE YOU! [Emphasis in the original.]
My poor mother would’ve been reading this…
(Thanks to Jeff Donlan for pointing out that the chap on the
cover carrying the girl away has joined the fabric of her skirt to (1) hold
onto and steady her and (2) make sure her skirt doesn't fly up and out and is not actually touching her thigh…)